2021.12.08 03:36 Candid-Mention-2416 marriage issue. Cheap husband? or am I crazy?
Hello everyone. It was such an emotional day today, and I just decided to join this group to ask others' opinions on what I think is more than a finance 'issue'. Kinda desperate here....
My husband (40M) makes 250-300k a year, and I (34F) make 110K a year. No kid, no pet, married for 4 years. Have 1 house we currently live in, and own 2 prebuilt properties.
People may think we are wrapped in gold and live luxurious happy life together, but we really are not (well, at least I am not). Most of our assets are in stocks on top of these properties we own and don't have much of quickly liquidable assets in our savings account.
Last month, our net monthly profit calculated to be a negative 9k and my husband FREAKED OUT and had a mental breakdown because of the fact that there was a monthly NET LOSS EVEN THOUGH HE MAKES SUCH A HIGH INCOME. WELL, the loss was mainly because 1) contractor payment (for our house renovation) was due, 2) bought a few appliances that we both agreed on, 3) paid yearly insurance fee all at once to save some money.
He started banging the drywall with his fist and shout out loud saying shit like "im so stressed at work, but I cant quit because of all these high expenses" etc etc.
I mean I get it. He had a stressful day at work. But then it is not like we spent the money on buying diamonds and chanel bags, they were necessary expenses. It is not like the negative 9K is going to make us go bankrupt - we still saved money this year so far.
He said he is so stressed out because after we pay the upcoming downpayment on the recent property we bought, we are going to have $0 in our savings account. BUT I MEAN, THATS BECAUSE WE DECIDED TO INVEST THE MONEY TO BUY A PROPERTY, RATHER THAN HAVING THEM SIT ON OUR SAVINGS ACCOUNT, NO???
This is not the first time that he has been either freaking out or gaslighting me (i feel like) in regards with 'finances'.
1) He didn't come back from his work trip (even though he could) when I had a miscarriage because 1) i said im fine, and 2) it costs so much money/effort on his end to schedule a flight back and a hotel arrangement.
2) He used to get mad at me when the house is not clean (ex, dishes not being done for more than a day) or food is not prepared on time (or when we have to order food in) because I am too busy at work, because he needs to do it and it is unfair for him because he makes way more money than me.
3) He had me cancel the TV wall mount installation ($100) because his friend is going to do it for free. He got very frustrated over hearing that we have to pay installation fees for new smart doorlocks (and even now considering just returning smart doorlocks). He insists to only grocery shop at cheap stores like walmart, and no frills. Doesn't like takeouts or ordering foods because they are expensive.
I don't own any high designer bags, I don't spend money on nails/hair things anymore, I only buy furnitures from wayfair that are on sale and stuff. Like, I have been being really frugal and have been helping us save lots of money, but it just doesn't end.
we, or at least I am definitely not living the life of the couple who makes 400k+ a year, let alone who makes 100k a year. It is just so sad. He got mad at me when I told him this, saying stuff like 'this house, these stocks could only happen because of our savings, etc'. But like, WHAT IS THE REASON FOR SAVING SUCH MONEY WHEN WE ARE NOT EVEN GOING TO USE THEM FOR OURSELVES? For our kids? we don't even have kids yet!!!!! So that we can travel the world when we are 90 year old?
I can tell that he loves me, and I dearly love him. It is just that when it comes to money thing, he becomes a giant asshole/cheapest ass sucko and I just don't know what to do.
What am I missing? Is this normal? How can I 'solve' this issue? What should I do?
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I once had an idea for a group of OC’s that I could use for multiple fan-fictions. It would be a a Halo crossover where the Flood actually won and spread throughout the universe. The Flood in this story would be based on a theory that the Flood aren’t ‘corrupted’ Precursors, but their Truest selves. Upon this total victory the Flood would seek out new experiences, new hosts and victims beyond it’s own universe, and would create sleepers using a combination of reverted Precursor biomass and an amalgamation of the minds and memories it consumed to create new Individuals. These beings would essentially become improved Pure Forms (or diluted Precursors) and would have power sets relating to that. They would be self-aware and self-controlled, but could be influenced by the Gravemind. They would be sent to worm their way into a new world, and then relay information back to the Flood , as well as prepare to feed the planet to the parasite. Some would break free and some wouldn’t. I’m not sure if the Flood being what they are would make the character too powerful, or if the idea of a individual breaking free of the Gravemind’s influence is unfaithful to the source material. Any advice? Any opinions on the idea? I’m open to hear it…
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¿Por qué existen dos cuentas del conductor nocturno?
Recién acabo de leer su última anécdota (del conductor "original"); y, como siempre, es grata la presencia de un maestro contemporáneo de las letras en este subreddit. Reconocemos su habilidad en la labor autobiográfica.
Pero, ¿qué con el otro driver? Sus anécdotas poco tienen de iluminadoras, y nada de novedoso. Además, la diferencia substancial entre ambos, es que a uno sí se lo han follado por el ano, y al otro no.
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Long story short I befriended a very cute girl at work. She's married with a few kids and has been 100% honest with me about being married with kids. She's super cute and has a super aggressive personality towards mw with touching. I am very sexually attracted to her and I think she knows it. Her Husband has been topic of bad discussions. He's deployed all the time and she seems lonely. She gave me two big hugs the last time we interacted a few days ago and I was checking out her figure and just lusting over her figure as she smiled. The chemistry is there 100% What would you do in my situation?
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2021.12.08 03:36 MistrSkywalker Did I agree to a "Verbal" release or settlement?
Hey folks, I was in a wreck recently. The other persons insurance accepted fault and made me an offer to total out my car which I told them I felt was fair. bit later I received a check in the mail which I haven't yet cashed. I have yet to actually receive or gotten asked to put my signature on anything.
The problem I have is I am trying to get them to cover some electronics as well, Not for large amount, but enough I feel it if I replace them out of pocket. I seem to have 2 adjusters, The adjuster that came out and looked at my car is the one who cut me a check for that, He told me he only deals with direct car damage, the other lady is the one who deals with the electronics. And as such She had me submit receipt for purchase of new equipment said she'd get beck to me, which she hasn't yet.
Now I am sitting here talking to a friend and listening to him when I probably shouldn't. He is trying to tell me that I shouldn't have agreed to the offer the adjuster who came out and that I signed a "Verbal" release w/o knowing it. I am crying shenanigan, surely if that where a thing I'd know I did it right? He's telling me they wouldn't have cut me the first check and now they probably consider this a dine matter and won't cover the electronics.
So hopefully this isn't to dumb of a question, Did I sign a verbal release? No one went through any kind of spiel and I never made any recorded statements beyond the typical customer service conversations, you know, Your call me be recorded.... But it does seem odd to me they'd cut me a check w/o asking me to sign anything.
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2021.12.08 03:36 A_Carmine Today I woke up like this! Used Cantu Comeback Curl Next Day Cur Revitalizer before bed and put my hair in pineapple. Could be wavier, but definitely a success for me!
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2021.12.08 03:36 INeed_MoMane Advice Needed: More Environmentally Friendly E-bike Batteries for University Project
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Let's start off simple with some yes/no questions.
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I’m currently finishing up my first semester as an Information Technology student at CC planning to go to Uni. I enjoy the programming classes so far, and if I continue in this program I will graduate on time(4 years) and I am pretty confident I will be able to get through and have no issues getting internships and what not. However, I’ve heard more and more that IT degrees aren’t very good and it’s way better to get a Computer Science degree for working in tech. Now I’m struggling to decide whether I should switch. I’m 25 and not getting any younger. CS is more rigorous and would add roughly an additional year of schooling and living costs to my plan, and that’s if I never fail anything. Im not entirely sure of how difficult the higher level maths and physics would be for me. it would be better for my overall career I believe. But I can’t decide if it’s worth the extra investment/risk
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